Molly Murray - Birth, Life, and Business Doula
When Birthing By Cesarean Becomes The Next Best Thing...
Giving birth by cesarean is rarely the outcome that my birth doula clients are hoping to achieve when they first hire me. It's rarely the outcome women are hoping for when they plan their birth.
Even still, pregnancy and birth happen and unfolds differently for everyone.
Some women have weeks to prepare that a cesarean may become the next best thing for themselves or their baby... in some instances, a cesarean is emergent.
As your Cincinnati doula and childbirth mentor, I see the importance in preparing for a cesarean, no matter what, even if you're planning a home birth or a natural vaginal birth.
I encourage all families to learn their options surrounding a cesarean birth, to watch this video of a ''family-centered cesarean'' and listen to this story on NPR of a ''Gentle Cesarean''.
You may have noticed I'm not saying, ''a c-section'' or even more crass, ''a section''.
It is my hope that within my childbirth classes, in prenatal visits, and in every interaction with families and birthworkers, I do what I can to re-frame words like ''c-section'' into birth.
Mothers give birth to their babies. It's not just a procedure. This isn't another medical event.
This is the birth day of a baby.
No matter the way out, a baby is born... as is a mother, a father, and a family.
Doula support through a cesarean is very similar to that through a vaginal birth. I will be there and offer my loving presence and guidance to you in any way that I can. From hand holding to tissue grabbing, I remain a peaceful and knowledgeable presence as you and your partner welcome your baby.
I will take pictures as you're prepared for the cesarean, I will go back with you and your husband if your care provider allows... and if not, I will stay with your husband until he joins you.
I've had Dads tell me that this is invaluable. The time of in between can be lonely.
I will be in the waiting room until I'm called back to recovery.
I will support you in skin to skin and breastfeeding, provide the opportunity for your husband to go to the restroom without leaving you alone, remind you what is normal and how great you're doing through it all.
I will stay with you as long as you need me there, no shorter than 2 hours post-birth,
As you get settled into your Mom/Baby room. I can help carry bags, adjust pillows, offer ice and water, and again remind you that you are brave, strong and absolutely amazing.
When I leave, I will let you know that I am still here for you, as a resource and as your doula.
Cincinnati Mother, Birth and Postpartum Doula, Childbirth Educator and Founder of the Cincinnati Birth and Parenting Network.