Molly Murray - Birth, Life, and Business Doula
Here we are...
40 weeks and 5 days. My EDD was 11/9/15
I knew better than to count on my due date.
I really did..
I'm a doula for goodness sakes, a childbirth educator...
I've supported over 100 women through their pregnancies, births and postpartum, most of which have gone over their due date...
In the beginning of my pregnancy, I was really good!!
People would ask when I was due and I'd say,
''Oh...mid to late November...you know it's just a guess..''
But as the months passed, and my body grew...It became exciting to count the days, to share how soon my due date was approaching...
Here's a kicker:
I may have even convinced myself I could go early.
My first was born at 40+3 and my second was born right at 40... so if we followed that trend, I shouldn't have even made it to my due date, right??? Right????
Haha. Wrong. All Wrong.
So now.... What's a Mom to do at 40+ weeks? Well, write a blog post... that's the obvious answer, right?
Creating a new business was soo 39 weeks. ;)
No, really. Look what I put together through my 39th week here -- >
Cincinnati Birth and Parenting Network
But seriously. We need a list. I need a list.
Your list of things to do is probably going to have some variations to it...and that's okay.
The important thing here is to give yourself things to look forward to..
to connect with yourself, your partner, baby and body...
I've checked several of these off already...and I'm dreaming big and leaving a couple open for next week, if I'm still pregnant... which I assume I will be.. because at this point, I've come to accept that I'm going to be pregnant until Christmas.
10 things to do when you're over due in Cincinnati
1. Read blog posts to remind you that going past your due date is totally normal!
While these blog posts were not comforting to me weeks ago, they are now reassuring.
This is normal. I won't be pregnant forever!
Birth Without Fear - Due dates are as accurate as a crystal ball
Evidence Based Birth - Evidence on due dates
2. Schedule a few massages.
I go to LMT Lauren Wales. She's absolutely aaahmazing...so gentle and nurturing, with strong hands, experience and an intuition that tells her exactly where I need massaged the most.
I suggest getting a massage at 40 weeks and scheduling one for 41 weeks and another at 42..
It almost makes going over your due date easy ....
okay, not really.
3. Visit the Cincinnati Family Enrichment Center
Ohh, Sharon. Sharon Said teaches the Hypnobirthing classes at Bethesda North.
She gets it.
She knows this is normal and can give an especially reassuring pep talk.
It's a good place to go, get a cup of tea, commiserate with other Moms, and listen to the cries of toddlers that will remind you that the little ones are easier to care for inside than they are out...
4. Cry into your pillow
''It's past my due date and I'll cry if I want to ... cry if I want to!!''
The emotional release is good for every cell of your being, just let it flow!
5. Visit The Red Balloon Play + Cafe
Their loaded mac n' cheese is pretty much the best mac n' cheese I've ever had.
It's also a great place to load up on Earth Mama Angel Baby Postpartum Spray ... and try on all the carriers...
Bonus, my kids love the play area.
Everyday from 2-4pm ... because really, labor is going to come on...eventually...
A mama needs her rest!
7. Visit all the parks.
Walk it out. Squat it out. Scream into the cool breeze... ''I'm ready when you are baby!!''
But really, just being physically active is good for the mind and body...
Yes, even if you just had one at 38 weeks.
I tell myself that it's probably the last I'll have for the next year, so two in one month is okay..
9. Take a bath
I like to light a couple candles, turn on my pregnancy meditations .... and just allow the water to soothe my mind and body, all the while trying to forget that I'll need a forklift to get me up and back out...
10. Make dinner reservations at your favorite restaurant.
One that you love at 41 weeks and one that you reeaally love at 42 weeks.
I plan on going to Maggiano's this Monday at 41 weeks ...
and The Incline House at 41 weeks.
Mmm.. I can already taste the Mushroom Ravioli al Forno..
Yes. I can handle a few more days of pregnancy, maybe even another week...
But only if it means I'll get to experience one more massage, another pedicure, and a night on the town.
Self care is key.
So start today. Write your list. Start adding funds to the ''overdue jar'' and most importantly, remember:
This is normal.
You are designed to birth this baby and he or she will come when he or she's ready.
You can do this. You've got this. The final stretch.
Your baby is just waiting for his or her perfect time.
This pep talk brought to you, by me for me... but I hope it helps you too.
What would you or will you add to your list? I'd love to know.
Are you due in January 2017 or beyond? I'd love to talk with you about being your doula!
Click here for more information and to schedule an interview today!
Cincinnati Mother, Birth and Postpartum Doula, Childbirth Educator and Founder of the Cincinnati Birth and Parenting Network.